Friend or Foe?

By definition a friend is "a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. 2. a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter:" When I look at my circle of "friends" I completely agree with that definition. I don't have many friends and based on that definition I shouldn't. There is a difference between a friend and an associate. Just because we are associates doesn't mean we are friends. Does that make sense? Once you know me you will find that I am a dedicated person who looks out for both friends and associates even strangers. I'm not an individual who feeds off of drama or entertains foolishness because I feel that the world has enough problems than to add more to it. I have had a rough 2011 and all I need in my life are friends. Real friends. You know the kind that don't run over me, embarrass me or belittle me. I need support... the same support I give. I don't need someone talking behind my back or running around  making me look as if I am this monster trapped in my body. You realize this is why I don't have many friends? The ones I have I would love for them to treat me the same as I treat them. With that being said... if I am not an asset to your life or supporter of the things you do in life...I'm probably not your friend... maybe I am an associate, a co-worker or a complete stranger but please don't categorize me as a friend if I am not. Everyone needs dedicated people in their life who they can call no matter what and if I come off as someone who is not any of that... consider me as something else.

*this message was dedicated to people out there who need that one person and probably are depending on the wrong person.

It's Your Story.....

Why is it that people can see what is wrong with everyone around them but can never look in the mirror and see where it begins. What's funny to me is people can tell you what's best for your life, how to live your life and why you should walk away from certain people in your life but they can't see that for themselves. I guess I just feel some kind of way about a person lecturing and telling me that my choices are bad choices. Ummmm have you viewed your choices? No one is perfect but I would rather be perfectly imperfect with my own choices. What was a mistake for you and what made you do something different is your life story not mine. So yes I understand people trying to be there and just want me to be happy but what makes you think I'm not? What may seem outlandishly ridiculous to you can be the one and only thing that makes me feel complete. With that being said... view your storybook and see if the pages fit together before you start editing another persons.  I say it all the time "if you want your life to be more rewarding... you have to change the way you think".  Remember that "Life is a book; Every day is a new chapter , and Every year is a new series" but this is your storybook... do what's best for you....

Be True to You....

"I'm sorry", "I apologize", "I wish I can take it back".... these words are used when you've destroyed someone by words or actions. But do you mean it? Assuming you have just gotten into an argument with someone and words were expressed out of anger or a email went in so many ways because of the wrong tone. Either way... its exactly how you felt at the time so why are you apologizing? Say what you mean and mean what you say... stop apologizing for whats on your heart.  They say a drunk man's words are truthful words because theres no remorse for what was said.

Do you want Love or a Fairy Tale?

Females grow up watching many fairy tales... Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella, Snow White and the list goes on. Have you ever really paid attention to those fairy tales? There's an underlined message in these stories ... nothing is perfect even fairy tales have flaws. Think about it. All these characters faced some type of challenge before finding true love. These fairy tales only show women that dreams come true with a little bit of patience. In real life that's the same message but its not over in 92 mins. It can take a lifetime. I'm not male bashing but every man comes with a price. A woman is either putting up with their childish ways, fighting with their past or taking care of them. A woman makes a choice... stick with what they have or move on to the next and dig into that mans problems. With that being said, would you rather live a fairy tale or real life? In real life you will have problems, nothing is perfect and you can live happily while working through those issues or you can live a fairy tale and pretend everything is all good and wind up being unhappily ever after.  The choice is yours......

Questions

February was one heck of a month... death in the family, break ups to make ups, and  birthdays. Now that its calm (of course after the storm) questions rise. There's no right or wrong answer because people use their experiences to help others with their situations. Mentally my mind is traveling to all sorts of places. There were days when I didn't know if I was coming or going. I took a mental break from the world and put things into perspective. The answers to my questions are my answers and I don't expect anyone to tell me that my answers are wrong... its the way I see fit for my life. I have people in my life who I could do without but I choose these people in my life because without them I am not me. Believe it or not, that's my choice. The way I see it..... life is like a multiple choice test...depending on how you read the question determines the right answer. Would I rather life give me all the right choices... yes but that's not how you live. You live to learn and you learn to live. I choose happiness and happiness is the way I answer my questions in life.